Who are you?

POST #4

“We create words to define our experience and those words bring attendant emotions that jerk us around like dogs on a leash. We get seduced by our own mantras (I’m a failure…I’m lonely…I’m a failure…I’m lonely…) and we become monuments to them. To stop talking for a while, then, is to attempt to strip away the power of words, to stop choking ourselves with words, to liberate ourselves from our suffocating mantras.”

Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat Pray Love. 2006.

Every day I log on to Facebook and I will see the regular ‘Why can’t I find a nice man?’ and ‘I’m so depressed and lonely’ statuses. These kinds of statements really bother me. For a small second I almost consider clicking on these “friends” and deleting them, but then I would have nothing to get angry and write about ha-ha!

·         Why is it that people think that their lives mean nothing if they’re single?

·         What is the obsession with people being so depressed because they are “alone”?

·         Why do people believe that they can only be happy if they are sharing their life with someone else?

What people don’t realise is that the only person that can make you happy is YOU. The reason why you are so unhappy is not because you don’t have a partner to share your issues with, it’s because you have issues in the first place. Finding someone will not dissipate your problems. Yes, the new love will be a beautiful distraction for a little while, but it will not make your issues disappear. Eventually, your issues will rise to the surface and break you right in front of your partners’ eyes or entirely shock you and make you realise that you're in the wrong place.

How are you supposed to be happy with someone and make someone else happy if you’re not actually happy yourself?

Did you ever think that being “alone” could actually be good for you sometimes?

You are not ready to fall in love until you love yourself. Seriously, not like actually be in love with yourself, that’s just crazy. However, appreciate yourself, enjoy your own company, explore your imagination, your identity. Figure out you. Read some books, watch some good films, learn to cook, and learn to enjoy your own life just because you bloody can. Try everything. Resolve your issues alone. Work hard, find your career, and figure out what future you want. Not just “I want a man/woman to love” and that’s it, because that’s really just not it!!

You’ll meet the right person when you meet the right you and that person will never expect you to be anyone else and will never ask you to be different.

Once you’ve embraced yourself fully and once you are comfortable to be exactly yourself, with no excuses, no lies, and no pretences, just you -with every single person you ever meet. That is when you can be happy with someone else, or start looking for someone.

You never know though, when you find you, you might not ‘need’ anyone else. That’s the whole point. Never lose your independence; never feel like you need someone else - because you don’t.
You'll know when it's right anyway....

New Start!

Hello Everyone!

I have decided to start a new blog simply because I am bored, and quite frankly a little bit lost.

I recently finished my degree in Fine Art, and somehow managed to land myself a full time job pretty much straight away. Since getting this job I have barely had the time to express myself creatively and to talk about the things that I love the most, or to even explore my passions further.

I actually really love my job, I work for a Tile Showroom and Warehouse, selling and distributing tiles amongst doing many other things there. I am still able to use my artistic knowledge on a daily basis and continue my love and imagination for interior design by working there.

That being said; just three months ago and for three years before that I spent every single day (all day) painting, drawing or writing and for that routine to completely have changed is quite a shock.

I actually tried to enrol on a Business Course last week because I am struggling to figure out how I am going to further my career, but ironically, I was the only person to show up so the course got cancelled.

So here it is, I am resorting to another blog that I will probably completely fail at keeping up with, just to make me feel like I am still doing something important and creative with my time because I really miss having something to write about!

So here it goes;

POST #1

My beautiful 2 year old son, Quinn, is currently obsessed with drawing and colouring, which of course I love to do too so I actively encourage him to express himself this way and to enjoy the marks that he is making.

The trouble is, is that he never continues to draw just on one piece of paper, every time he makes a mark with paint or crayon he likes to turn the page and start something new. Being an artist myself, I understand these feelings! However, my house is cluttered with used paper and sketchbooks and I am very proud of Quinn and his drawings so love to show them off.

I wanted to think of a quick way of displaying these images for all to see and enjoy, without the walls being covered in blue tack or crumpled up paper.

A few weeks ago I purchased a ‘scatter frame’ which was on sale in Asda (or Wal-Mart to my American friends) You know, it’s just one big clip frame with multiple picture slots so you can kind of collage all your material together with it still looking neat and tidy.

I have been waiting for an excuse to use the frame and to also clear up some of Quinn’s artwork and today I just thought, What a lovely way to decorate his bedroom! So easy to do, and it looks lovely!

I now have a mixture of Quinn’s Artwork in this frame, from his stencil prints, a few different paintings (stamping shapes and also stippling brush techniques), also parts of a collages that he made with me. It now looks like one big, neat decoration.

I think I will be doing it with a lot of his pictures. It is hard to keep hold of them when they are stuck to the fridge or blu-tacked to the wall, especially when his mischievous self pulls them down and decides he doesn’t like them anymore.

It’s a great way to capture my precious memories with him! I also think they will make excellent and reasonably priced Christmas gifts for family too.

Here’s what it now looks like on Quinn’s bedroom wall.

 I love it! just so unique!

For my following blogs, I hope to write about other things that I have enjoyed doing with my son, or even textile projects that I have been working on, paintings that I have made or write about books that I am reading. Reviews on make-up, cooking and Art Exhibitions… there are endless possibilities with this! I feel so free and thankful that I have chosen to start a new blog, I have had a few before but I focused mainly on my artwork and felt so pressured. This way I believe I can inspire others to take an interest in other things too.

If you are here because you are interested in my Artwork, then please view my online portfolio @ www.emmagough.weebly.com

Emma Gough

Red-head, Mother, House Wife, Graduate, Lover of Creativity and More… Stay Tuned!